Make a difference

When I initially thought of writing this, I had some topic in mind. But yesterday, while talking to a friend, I thought of something else. But this new idea, I guess, is not actually enough to make a new post. Hence am going to merge the two. Can’t exactly use the word “merge” as the two topics can be viewed as entirely two different unconnected subjects and one can relate them too, if one wants to...

Actually, I was talking to a very good friend of mine. He taught me something. I liked what he told and was happy that I have learnt something good. Then thought, “y cant I just pen these points so that others who want to, can benefit with it?”…

Hey... Can u guys tell who the best teacher is? I feel that “life is the best teacher”. No one can teach u what life can…

Actually, I was not like this before. Things used to happen, I used to react and then wud just carry on. Never used to analyze the situation and learn from it. My roommate, in this case, was exactly opposite to wot I was. Even if something wrong happened, she would say “I have learnt from this”. I always used to wonder wot she cud learn from such situations???

But now I realize that a person can learn from the smallest of incidents… Growing old doesn’t actually confirm that u r growing wise as well. If u try to learn, each day, each moment will make u wiser…

I am the kind of person who wud buy anything just coz of the very simple reason that "I liked it". I don’t actually think much before getting it. But a friend of mine wud never do that. He had two pair of shoes. If he saw another good one in a showroom, he wud appreciate it but never buy it. If only the old ones got spoilt, he wud buy new ones. I used to think that he was stingy. One day he told me : “ there is a difference between wot u want and wot u need. U shud be able to differentiate the two.” It was a grt lesson indeed. Sad part is that I understood wot he told but haven’t implemented it so far. Probably, I will do that when I have more responsibilities to shoulder.

What I am going to tell now is wot I learnt yesterday. It was actually an explicitly told lesson. My friend, yesterday, told me the difference between another set of words. Ie. “listen” and “hear”… I guess, when someone scolds u, say for an example when a mother scolds a kid, the kid always “hears” it n not “listen”. Even if u go to a satsang and just hear the entire speech, u r not going to gain anything. But if u “listen” to it and try to understand the meaning of wot is being told and try to imbibe it, u will learn many a things, for sure…




Many of my friends have been onsite in the near past and many are still there. Since I haven’t been to a foreign land, I have always been curious to know their experiences. They tell me “people over here are so polite. Almost all their sentences precede or succeed with lotsa thankus and sorrys”… Some say “India is the best place... But only if it was a lil cleaner”… In this last statement the second part can be replaced by “... but if only the traffic wasn’t this bad”, “…but if only the infrastructure was better”, “…but if only the ….”. The list is endless…

But tell me very frankly… when u say u want your country to be better , who do u think will do that if not u???? if ever, after getting down from a bus, u have thrown the tickets on the road or the pavement, u don’t have the right to complain about the cleanliness. If ever while traveling in ur car, u have thrown the chips or biscuit cover on the roadside, u don’t have the right to complain.
If u urself keep honking wen behind the wheels, u don’t have the right to complain about the noise on the road. If ever u have broken the traffic rules, u don’t have the right to complain about the bad traffic either.
Do u really talk politely to others everytime??? If ever u have shouted at someone angrily for him/her having stamped on ur feet in a crowded bus or for any such petty things, then u don’t have the right to complain about other ppl being impolite either!!!!
Well… India is superior to other countries in many matters but still...like the case of the reasons of India being inferior to other countries is endless, so are the reasons of we not contributing enough to make the place a better place to live in!!!!

If all of us realize our responsibilities, we can make a difference for sure. We need not be a president or a prime minister or a minister for helping the country grow. If all of us understand our responsibilities and work accordingly, v can change many of the bad things around us.

Actually, even if we understand the expectations from us as a son/daughter, a brother/sister or a friend or any relation for that matter, and try to play the role well, v can have a better relation. Its said that “ if u love someone, say I love u, be it a friend, ur parents or whoever for that matter”. But just telling someone that they are ur best friends isn’t enough. Well… “actions speaks louder than words”. isn’t it?... Hope u got wot I wanted to tell…

Hey, we guys work hard at office rt? In our professional lives, v have our set of roles n objectives defined and ve have to work to achieve it. At the end of 6 months or so, our performance is measured and v get the appraisal accordingly. Because of this, v work hard to achieve our goals.

In our personal lives, no one sets any such objectives. But does that mean that we wont work to achieve our implicitly defined roles??? Does everything needs to be told to us explicitly?? Cant v, own our own, understand our roles and responsibilities as a son/daughter, as a family member, a friend, an employee, as a citizen and work accordingly. If all of us understand this and act accordingly, I am sure that the world will be a better place to live in…

Each one of us has the capability to make that small beginning which will end up making a big difference…