The Human Nature

Ever thought of this topic??? “The Human nature”…
Very vast one of course and cannot be covered in just one post. U can consider this as the first part and the rest of the parts may or may not follow depending on my mood :)...

Hmm so there comes a human nature… being moody…
I have met many ppl in my life and all have different different nature. No two person I have met who have same nature. May be similar, but never the same.
Well, God would have done a lot of hard work to create so much of variety…

Well, I have many friends. Some are happy go lucky kinds who don’t get worried about anything, and some who take everything seriously. Some who are always ready to do just anything for others , and some who are very much self oriented or selfish, whichever way u like to call it. Some are not at all moody, some are. Some are confident, and some lack it very much. Some have a positive outlook towards life, some see only the negative aspect of life. Some like to have a smile on their face always, some prefer to have a grim expression. Well, the list doesn’t end here, but I better not make it an unending list… Hmm you can read an “etc” after the list. (A very intelligent word it is: etc. It makes people believe that you actually know more than what you have stated ;) ).

Add 10 points for yourself, if u have a nature that comes before the comma in the above list. (eg. In the sentence: Some like to have a smile on their face always, some prefer to have a grim expression….if u fall in the "like to have a smile on their face always category", add on 10)
and if your total adds up to 40 or above, you are a good human being…
he he he obviously, I am kidding.

Well jokes apart, there exist some strange kinna ppl on this earth who cannot see anything/ anyone other than themselves. These kinna ppl are called the selfish kinds. Which ever circumstance they face, they somehow tend to think as to “how is it going to affect me?” they never think “if I do it this way, will it help others”. Well, not many ppl think in the later way. Its very difficult to be selfless but I guess it wont be that difficult to think in this way “It should affect me positively and should not hurt others too at the same time”.

Recently met a kind who have a problem accepting their faults. Is it that difficult to accept your fault if u know that you are actually wrong. They somehow analyze everyone else on this world other than themselves and point out other's mistakes but somehow never see the mistakes they themselves make. And even if someone points it to them, they have a problem accepting it. They prefer to ignore it rather than accept the same. Well, if you ever have a problem with someone and you realize at some point of time that you are wrong, then accept it. Say sorry, and of course “mean it”!. Believe me, it doesn’t hurt at all. The other person will only appreciate your gesture.

Hmm, another category, and a very interesting one: the “Mr./Ms. Know it all” kinds.
Well, these people seem to know about just anything and everything under the sky. And will have a view about just everything and seem to have experienced and faced every possible situation. Hmm, they also feel that they are “Mr./Ms perfect” :)

Some are mature to the core. And some at the same time are just too immature.
Have met ppl who are just too mature for their age. They think everything in a very logical manner. They know: what to do, when to do and how to do. They, actually can, face just any situation.

Have a friend who faces life very coolly. And u know? He never had to struggle for anything so far, as far as I know. He has got all that he wanted and never had to ask for it.
Probably, if you think positive, you will get positive results. And vice versa.

Will u believe it? A friend of mine was asked to go as an external examiner in his college after 5 yrs of passing out and he accepted it without thinking twice. Well, it’s not that easy to judge a student if you yourself are not thorough with the subject. And it’s only very natural to forget what you studied 5 yrs back. Well, what he showed was confidence in himself and also it proves his memory and intelligence too.
Ever wondered why we forget what we studied in our previous year’s classes but somehow tend to be able to recollect the lines of a song that, may be, you would have last sung 10-11 yrs back???
Hey, will tell you a funny incident that happened to one of my friend during her college days. I know I am deviating from the topic, but I don’t mind it :).
Well, she realized the fact stated above and hence decided to make use of it in a positive way. What she did was, she replaced the lyrics of one of her favorite songs with the formula that she had to memorize. It was fitting perfect with the tune of the song that she had selected. Well, the D day came, and luckily the same question came in the paper. She was very happy to see that question. But, fate had some other plans for her :(. She could recollect the song and the tune perfectly but could not recollect the lyrics that she had put in!!!! I guess, that’s life ;) ha ha ha

Well, coming back to the topic.

Another category is the “too good to be true” kinds.
This phrase is used for ppl who seem to be sooooo good that they cannot be true.
Hey, ever met a kind that is too good and true at the same time?
Well, I have. I actually know two ppl who fall under this category.
You wont believe it but, they think about others before thinking about themselves. They somehow don’t have any kind of jealousy, or any ego. They accept their faults graciously...
Well, I find myself lucky that they both are very good friends of mine :).

To be contd…

NB:

1)Hmm, now don’t ask me what kinna person I am :)

2) Hey ppl, there is one important thing that I would like to tell you all. Kindly donot misunderstand that I classify my friends. My friends may not be perfect, they may have negatives in them, but they are my friends and i simply love them just the way they are :). Must have heard rt, that "noone is perfect untill u fall in love with them":)...

3) Also, want to tell that when I have made a conclusion about someone's nature, I have done that after analysing them well and knowing them well enough for a long enough duration as making a conclusion about a person by meeting him/her only once or twice would be a wrong thing to do. You will, most of the times, reach a wrong conclusion in that case as the mood or reaction of a person are mostly influenced by the situation n circumstances too.

Letters

When I say the word "letter", I have no clue what u ppl are reminded of or how important it is to you all. But that word takes me down the memory lane (not very deep, may be 7-8 yrs in the past :)), when I used to receive letters regularly from one of my very sweet friends. And believe me, I used to wait eagerly for the reply after I had sent one …Was staying in a hostel at that time and used to check regularly with the warden if there was a letter for me. Those letters used to be special, because they were from a special friend, a friend with whom I used to share all my joys and sorrows. And I used to get a reply to each and every statement I had written. And ya, another specialty used to be the length of the letters ... They used to be min 2-3 A4 sheets, written on both sides :)… I just love to read and write such lengthy letters…

Well, I don’t receive such letters any more as they have been replaced by the “e-mails”…
But this post is not written to debate about “which is better- e-mails or letters” …
Both have their own advantages… Also, I won’t be the right person to give my say on this topic as I enjoy reading or writing mails as much as I used to enjoy letters…

E-mail is obviously a better way of communication in this era and blends well with our lifestyle as it is faster, easily accessible to all (as internet is nothing but a basic necessity now-a-days and almost everyone has it) and more economic too. Also, you need not take the pains to buy an envelop or cover, write letter and then search for a letter box to drop it in. Yup, e-mails, in this context, save your precious time too.

But, somehow, letters have something more to do than just convey information. It has that personal touch to it. I am a sort of person who likes things which are personalized.
I still treasure the hand made card that my lil nephew made for me, another one that my cousin sis made for me…

When, we buy cards for friends or family, we search for the ones which have the best words in them. But we tend to write just “dear so n so” at the top, and “with love, so n so” at the bottom… We feel that, whatever is printed in the card is more than enough… But it is not so. May be , the card you chose is very beautiful, the wordings may be very touching but if you write some personalized message in it, its value increases… It gets closer to the recipients heart. Well, it holds good in my case but don’t know if I can use it as a generalized statement.

Whenever, I used to receive any parcel from home, it usually didn’t used to contain any letter from mom or dad. I used to open each time expecting a small letter or note inside but never used to find one. Well, there is nothing to blame them. Actually, there was no need to keep a note as we talk over the phone daily and so there is nothing left to be informed via a letter. Well, once dad had left a small letter in one of the parcels, and I have that letter with me even now :).

Well, in case, any of you is wondering what made me think about letters today, then it’s because of one of my friends again… Yesterday, I received a b’day card from one of my close friends which had a letter in it. I was touched. It made me nostalgic… Felt very good and wanted to thank the friend immediately for the very special gift by calling up but thought that this would be a better way to thank my friend.
The card was not exceptionally beautiful but what was exceptional was the emotion in the words that my friend had jotted down…

My friend wrote:

" Friends are a lifetime of shared experience and memories, laughter, caring, fights… A true friend is a gift to cherish and you are my BEST FRIEND…
I wish u a wonderful b’day filled with lots of fun, surprises and warm wishes… adding to that is my small b’day card for you and I hope that it brings the warmth of a true friend.
I hope that wherever we are, who ever we may become... our friendship lives forever..."

Well, ours is a friendship that literally has lots of memories, laughter, caring and not to forget... “The fights” ;)

Well, dear friend… would like to tell you, that this "small b'day card" of yours was the sweetest gift I got on my b’day this year…

The Power of a Caption

Had attended a workshop on “Wildlife photography” few days back ( a wild interest i know.. but very challenging n very demanding too). The presenter was Mr. Kalyan Varma who is the winner of The Sanctuary “photographer of the year” award…
The photo attached above is the photo that won him this prestigious award…
It did catch my eye as soon as i entered the room but cudnt actually make out what exactly it was.
Later he explained it,with the caption… It said “The assassination”...
It is actually a fight going on between the two ants… but there is more to the story that just a fight…
Well, if you look carefully, there is a scar on the thorax region (middle body) of the ant on top which implies that it had wings at one point of time and has now fallen off, proving that it is the Queen Ant.
The other one is a labor ant. It so happened that the queen ant ventured into another Queen’s territory and the labor ant is fighting with it to save his territory.
If u look closely, the labor ant is trying to kill the queen using its sting.
After this fight, the queen ant was assassinated…
Hmm such a big story behind a snap rt?

Yup, its true that photographs are rarely self-sufficient. They need captions. A caption tells us something about the person or thing photographed, also something about the photographer…

U all must have sent your trip snaps or of any other occasion for that matter, giving it an interesting caption rt? It makes the photo more catchy n more fun to watch... isn’t it?

Even for an article, captions are as important as for a photograph.
At times, captions can force u to read the entire article. Well, no comments on the captions that some news channels use just to make their news sound more “masaaledaar”...

Well, shall tell an incident that made me realize the importance of a caption…

While going thru the newspaper one morning (hope my friend who made me start reading paper is reading this ;) ), one headline caught my eye.
It read “License to kill”. Well, it raised my curiosity. I started wondering if it was something about the “mercy killing” which ppl have been debating about but never reached at a conclusion whether to make it legal or not. (well, just for ur info, mercy killing is “the right of a terminally ill patient to die”.. Should dying patients have the right to order their doctors not to start or continue medical treatment? Should doctors be protected from prosecution if they shorten a patient's life expectancy with pain-killing drugs? N such stuff… )

Well, I decided to read the article. Guess wot I found in it???? It was actually about a new pesticide used to KILL PESTS…pesticide which gives u the license to kill ;)

The incident might sound funny but it actually made me realize “THE POWER OF A CAPTION “ … :)

Do you mean what you say???

If I ask you ki which are the most commonly used words, then most of u might say that its “thanks” n “sorry”.
Well, that’s true.
I know, that you too use it pretty often. But do you actually mean it when you say it?

Well, when do you say sorry?.. You say so when you feel that you have done something wrong and that you need to apologise. And when do you say thanks? Its when you feel that someone has done a favor for you or has helped you in some way or the other and that you are actually thankful to them.. Well, if you note, these words are to be told when you actually feel those emotions. Not when you know that you should use them just to sound polite.
Being polite and sounding polite are entirely different. You can make out the difference from the way its told.
Wen you say sorry or thanks, look into the eyes… It conveys that you actually mean it…
Well, there was an incident when I was trying to make a friend understand why I felt that what she did was wrong. After a long discussion, she said “well, I am sorry” …she said it but didn’t mean it. Those words were so emotionless that it made me wonder why I wasted my time for her…

Have you wished anyone on their wedding or engagement or any other occasion off late? Yes you must have.
But just think and tell frankly.. did you mean the wish when you said it?
I have seen ppl, all excited about their friends birthday, preparing n planning for it days back, calling them up many a times on the D'day to wish them… all just to make the b’day boy/girl feel special on their special day… All this shows that you actually care for that person.
Have also seen friends, who just wish for wishing sake..
But, here too you can make out who actually wishes “dil se” and who is just being formal.
Even if you are far away from your friend, the way you wish, the happiness and excitement in your voice tells the listener that you love them, care for them and that you want them to be happy on their special day and always..

If you yourself are upset about something and still you call up to wish the other person keeping your worries aside for a while, it gives double happiness to them… it shows they are important to you… also it makes you yourself feel better that you chould be a part of someone's happiness or may be.. a reason for it…
If you are very busy doing some work, then don’t call then. Call up when you have atleast five min to spare and when your mind is free. Calling up, just wishing and telling that you are already preoccupied doesnt make sense.

Also, be careful when you say something..take the case when you are angry... You may say something wrong to someone in anger and later say sorry and may be, you mean that "sorry" too... but that wont heel the harm already done to the relation. The other person might forgive u but the scar always remains... So, think before u speak...Remember that "Words once uttered can never be taken back..."

When you tell that you will finish a particular work, then finish it… as the other person expect…
When you tell someone that you ‘ll call back in some time, do call up…as the other person waits..
When you say "I love u", mean it.. as its linked with someones emotions...

Well... I feel that the only mantra to be true not just to others but to yourself too.. is “mean what you say and also do what you say”...

Udaan... The flight

Dekha meine ik chote
Panchi ko bharte udaan;
Peeche uske mata – pita
Karne madad jab aaye dhalaan.

Socha meine, ik din mein bhi,
Ud jaoonga is jag se pare;
Jahan na ho ye jagwasi
Klesh, dhwand aur krosh se bhare.

Ik din mein bhi mil jaoonga
Us neele akaash mein
Udta-udta bas jaaoonga
Door kahi is pyas mein.

Is udan mein jeevan,
hein kitne sukh se bharaa
hein nahi koi simta
hein nahi koi daraa.

Socha meine kyon na mein bhi
Bharkar dekhoo ek udaan
Par aatmavishwas nahi
Kya sambhloonga jab aaye dhalaan?

Sach poocho to kya yah vaaky
Mere liye koi mayine rakhta hei?
Mein, jo ek saada baalak,
Maata ke sneh ko rota hoon.
Mein, jo ek saada baalak
Udne ki nahi
Chalne ki aasha karta hoon......

Guys, wondering wot i have written???? Well, that’s a poem written by “ME” wen in college.. ya u read it right. It’s my poem written for one of those Hindi competitions ;)… I know, many wud not have read the entire thing, unable to find any meaning in that ;)..
Just go thru it once, if u have not done that already…( I know, atleast the ppl who know me will do that much for me :) )…

In case u didn’t get wot I wanted to convey thru the poem (well, its not ur mistake if u didn’t understand, he he he the problem lies with the amateur way the poem is written ;) )..
shall explain…
It’s about the dream of a small child who dreams of flying high in the vast sky...
The dream of a young orphan boy who yearns for the love of his parents... a handicapped boy for whom even a step walked alone is a dream come true…

I know, the poem has lots of flaws in it.. I mean the way it is presented n the words used n may be many more to list..

But, that was not the main intension in posting it... just wanted to convey that :

Ppl… DO thank god for all the wonders he has given us..

The ability to walk, to c, to feel, to love…
Appreciate wot u have..
Enjoy life, the way it comes :)

Enjoy togetherness....

Happy living ppl :)